tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2034286601533366899.post4616570367244521730..comments2023-04-29T05:23:04.621-07:00Comments on Anthropologist in the Making: Something a little different for meAnthrogeek10http://www.blogger.com/profile/11406037720184185596noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2034286601533366899.post-7891854916161239362009-08-21T14:59:09.510-07:002009-08-21T14:59:09.510-07:00You are welcome, and she sounds better as an acqua...You are welcome, and she sounds better as an acquaintance than a friend!Chiaranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2034286601533366899.post-63220402194496302412009-08-21T14:23:54.468-07:002009-08-21T14:23:54.468-07:00I wonder-being on whatever side of the conflict al...I wonder-being on whatever side of the conflict allows the other person to know (somewhat) what VALUES they stand for. Those are not the values I admire (Rebublican right wing bull *&%$). They have very few values I would take on as my own. That said, they want to put their head in the sand regarding what the US is doing to fuel the fire over there. Don't get me started. lol<br /><br />I may be able to be friends with her superfically. Not on a deep level. Thats what I think after pondering this. <br /><br />Thanks!<br />anthrogeek10Anthrogeek10https://www.blogger.com/profile/11406037720184185596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2034286601533366899.post-53597336111290597692009-08-21T10:27:32.713-07:002009-08-21T10:27:32.713-07:00I was having an email intellectual friendship with...I was having an email intellectual friendship with a friend's husband of 1 year, who is an American so far right that he cannot find anyone sympatico in the Republican Party and considers himself a libertarian of a 1 person party (himself). He sent me a right-wing rant article and I commented, including the following (sorry if this offends anyone here, I tend to go with the UNHRC, UN, IRCC, AI, HRW and the NYT on this one--ie on Israel's 2008-9 Gaza offensive, and 2006 Lebanon offensive):<br /><br />"The suggestion that the US would ever try to stop Israel is hilarious. They never have, at most they have refused to participate, whereupon Israel does what it wants, including sinking an American ship. In recent years the US has perfected the art of saying nothing except that Israel is a sovereign nation with the right to defend itself while Israel creates wars and bombs civilians with naphtalene." <br /><br />He, who considers himself a not Jewish Jew, was so furious that he tried to break up my 4-year friendship with his wife, tried to stop her from having any further contact with me, including by email, and refused to tell her what "horrible things" I had said or even to give a category. She asked me by email so I emailed her the whole exchange, and another one that was one of our typical ones where we disagreed but had no offense. I pointed out the offending paragraph. <br /><br />Eventually, after weeks, he settled down about my friendship with his wife, but ended ours. <br /> <br />He had told her he would never email me again, even though he wanted to (since he enjoyed my respectful intelligent debating style). I had sent him a peace offering email with an article he would be interested in--without apologizing to him or letting on I knew he was angry (at her request request). He eventually sent a perfunctory reply.<br /><br />I told her I valued her friendship and was sorry he had become so upset since it negatively impacted her life. She and I have moved on, and our friendship is healed, and somewhat strengthened. <br /><br />Bottom line--in my experience the Israeli-Palestine conflict is an area where people are hypersensitive, and have more difficulty agreeing to disagree.<br /><br />I wouldn't feel badly about what you did, and would allow her to make her decisions about your friendship, as you should make yours. Perhaps there is salvage room, while avoiding certain topics, perhaps not.Chiaranoreply@blogger.com